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I Homeschool to Protect My Children from the World’s Standards

I homeschool to protect my children from the world’s standards. I just said that out loud… well, I typed it, and I’m sure I’ll get some grief over it. But it is fact, and I know many of us homeschool for this very reason. So I’m going to just own it. I do shelter my children and try to protect them from the world’s standards.

Socialization

As homeschoolers, we constantly hear how our children won’t be socialized. Well, I’ll be honest, that is the entire point of why many of us homeschool. Okay, maybe not the ENTIRE point, but one of the big points.

I was raised in the public school system. And I know what I was exposed to and what I exposed others to, to be perfectly honest. I’ll just keep it real … I’m protecting my boys from girls like I was.

Surprised?

Don’t be. I have a history, and it is not one I’m terribly proud of. My mother didn’t want another child… and it was obvious. I looked for love in all the wrong places. And made some huge mistakes. I would spend the night with one of my best friends so I could experience the thrill of sneaking out. And what did I do when I was out? Got in even more trouble.

So yes, I am protecting my children from what I personally experienced and all the public school system of socialization has to offer.

God Has a Sense of Humor, I’m Sure of It!

You might be asking why.

Let me share the irony, after my above confession. My oldest son is dating a girl from- wait for it –public school. And honestly, she is precious. Her mom is as fiercely protective as any mama bear I have ever seen. And, ironically, her brother is homeschooled. So I don’t dislike the kids in public schools or private schools. But there is plenty that I don’t like:

I don’t like the system itself.

I don’t like what they teach.

I don’t like how they teach it.

I don’t like what they use to teach.

I hate the fact that God is banned from their campuses.

I don’t like what children are not just exposed to, but almost indoctrinated in…

Sex.

Drugs.

Drinking.

Rebellion.

No thanks.

My kids are not perfect, but they are not dabbling in any of those, thank you. They are perfectly normal, partially sheltered, faithful homeschooled boys. And I am very proud of the young men they are becoming. If you asked them, I can guarantee you they would attribute some of that to being homeschooled. Some to their faith. And some to who they are and what they want to do with their lives and having the right priorities (most of the time).

So if anyone is making you feel guilty or second-guess your decision over this whole socialization conversation …

Don’t give in. 

Don’t allow others to have any say or control over your parenting decisions.

Children are little for such a short while.

No, we can’t shelter them their entire lives. We know they will one day grow up and be exposed to the onslaught of the world’s standards. But that attack will come after we have given them a firm foundation. So teach them diligently, moms and dads. Give them the emotional and spiritual tools and a strong foundation in your faith that they will need to go out into this vast chaotic and lost world.

Give them what they need to help them navigate through the world’s landmines, and then watch them thrive because they were properly prepared to make good decisions and to stand up for what they believe in. You won’t regret the time you spent sheltering your children and giving them a firm foundation for living in and being a light to the world.

About the author

Trish

Trish is one of the owners of Hip Homeschool Moms. She has been married to her best friend, David, for 20 years and they have three sons (ages 17, 16 and 14). Trish is from the coast of North Carolina, but they now live in rural West Tennessee on a 40+ acre farm. She has been homeschooling since 2009 and her homeschool style leans towards a Montessori approach with a heavy emphasis on hands-on learning. They also own a small business that Trish runs from home. Trish’s family is Messianic and they love studying the Scriptures, learning Hebrew and growing in their faith and walk daily. In her spare time, Trish loves to write, work in their garden and can regularly be found trying to learn something new, modeling that learning is indeed a life-long endeavor!

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  • Trish this is one of the best articles I have read in a long time. You were so honest and raw and I love that. I could not have said that any better. Thank you for this

  • This is exactly how many of us feel…and feel like we can not say it. When someone asks me why I homeschool, this is what I want to say, but I know how explosive it would be if I said it. Well done!

    • Thanks Kim! I know… I really want to encourage all of us homeschool moms to remember that God calls us to be different. To stand out. To not fit in. To be peculiar and to not look like the world and love the things the world loves. Instead to love what God loves and hate what God hates. I appreciate the encouragement.

  • Yes! I totally agree with you on this. I am new to homeschooling, my boys are 6,4, and 2. I love to read the blogs of other homeschooling moms and I enjoyed reading a little about you. Thanks! 🙂

    • Thanks Sarah!! I have three boys also and they are that close in age too!! But mine are now 18, 16 and 14. The days seem long but the years fly by!! So glad you are starting the homeschool journey! You won’t regret it!!

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