I am not a huge fan of New Year’s resolutions. I’m not sure I’ve ever kept one. In fact, I pretty much stopped making them years ago. Of course, my New Year’s resolutions usually involved losing weight (usually by joining Weight Watchers on January 1) and exercise (usually by joining a gym I rarely visited after about January 15).
However, this year I began pondering the idea that perhaps there were some resolutions that as a mom I need to make (and keep) in order to be a better mom. To that end, I came up with a list of 5 New Year’s Resolutions to inspire moms. I hope they inspire you to connect more with your family in the new year!
Say yes more often.
I believe that all too often, moms say no for the sake of saying no. When my son was born, I told myself that I would say “yes” to him unless I had a really good reason to say “no.” Today, thirteen years later, while I can’t say I have always been a “yes mom,” I do think my attempt to be one is appreciated by my son. I don’t know why it is so difficult for many moms to say yes more. It might be a measure of control, or a lack of willingness to allow messes, or fear of what will happen if we are too permissive. Whatever the reason, try putting them aside in 2014 and watch your relationships with your kids blossom.
Purpose to connect with each child every day.
I know it’s easier said than done. Even with one child, it can be a challenge to make sure I dedicate a portion of my day to him. Something I started this past year was giving him permission to approach me at any time during the day to request 30 minutes of my time. He has the assurance that if at all possible, I will stop whatever I am doing and give him that time. Sometimes, we play a game or read a book. Other times we might just chat, or he’ll have something he’s been working on that he wants to share. I find that he doesn’t always need this time every day, and that’s just fine; he knows I’m here and available to him at a moment’s notice. He knows I value spending time with him.
Eat dinner together every day, as often as possible.
Have you noticed that in this day of busyness, families don’t seem to be sharing meals together as much? I remember as a child, it was usual that no matter what went on during the day, we were expected to be home for dinner. I have such great memories of those family dinners where the events of the day were discussed. I think we have to fight harder for this time today; there is so much competition for our time and attention. However, it is worth the effort to make dinner time sacred for your family, even if that means making different choices for outside activities. If you absolutely cannot make dinner work, then eat breakfast together.
Date your husband.
If there’s anyone that gets neglected in most families, it is Dad. Being a mom is demanding, time-consuming, exhausting. I know that in my years as a mom there have been many nights when I just wanted Dad to come home and take over. The thought of doing anything special for him was the last thing on my mind. But moms, we have to nurture and protect our time with our husbands. Consider once a week date nights. Even if tucking the kids in early and watching a movie together is all you can muster or afford, find a way to make it happen. It is one simple way you can connect with your husband regularly and give him that special time he deserves. It really does make us better moms to be better wives.
Take time for yourself.
It doesn’t have to be a weekend away, or even a whole day to yourself, but, moms, do take time to recharge. Get up earlier than the kids for some quiet time, meet a friend for lunch on Saturday afternoon, lock yourself in your room to read for a couple of hours (or take a nap!), take a long bubble bath, or exchange babysitting one afternoon a week (or even a month!) with a friend. Do something that lets your family see that you are important, too. This isn’t about getting “away from the kids” or being selfish, this is simply your time of refreshment. We all need it. It is okay to indulge. There you go — 5 New Year’s resolutions for moms and not one mention of dieting or exercise! How about that? Happy New Year, Friends! I pray you are richly blessed in 2014! Now, tell me, do you make New Year’s resolutions? I would love to hear what you hope to accomplish in the new year.