Neighbors either think we are SuperMoms or SuperCrazy … it really can go either way.
Friends watch us as we plan field trips, plan lessons, plan meals, plan every.waking.moment.of.our.lives.
We are really focused on time, on curriculum, on testing, on results.
So often we compare ourselves to the other homeschool moms, because we just know they are doing a better job than us – so we plan more stuff, try to be more creative, try to add more extra curricular activities because we need to socialize and have the most well-rounded kids ever …
And in all of this madness … let me ask you a question …
What have you done for your marriage lately?
Has your husband even made it onto your to do list?
We could make a thousand lists of what we have done for our families in the last week. Oh yes, we homeschool moms, oh how very much we love our lists. I love lists so much, I will write things down that I have already completed just to have the satisfaction of crossing them off.
Sad, but true.
But what have you done for your marriage lately?
You know how we put all that time into teaching the abc’s … stop for a moment and think about it. Our children’s first lesson in love is taught at home. We tell our kids we love them all of the time, but do they see us love our spouses too? In order to be the very best parent that you can be, you really need to be the very best couple you can be. We are setting the bar for what our children will expect from their own lives. How we behave with our spouses is actually modeling for our kids the kind of partner they may want to spend the rest of their lives with. Yes, strangers joining our families – becoming our family. I know, that I would like to have sons-in-law that I actually want to have at my table for the holidays!
But back to the here and now and making an effort in your marriage … kind of like dating. Back in the 50’s there was a book called The Fascinating Womanhood that advocated surprising your man wrapped in saran wrap and high heels – really! I am leaning more towards a taking a shower, wearing real clothes and probably some lipstick.
Making a favorite meal, setting aside time for a walk, cuddling on the sofa watching the history channel …
Simple acts of love.
Commit to making time for eachother.
Cherish one another. I just love that word – cherish.
The dictionary describes the word ‘cherish’ as to treat something as an object of affection or as valuable. What could be more valuable than your relationship?
You simply cannot put your husband on the backburner, your marriage needs to be in the forefront.
You need to still be connected as a couple down the road, because you need to remember …
God gave us our kids to raise, to ultimately give away.
But He gave us our husbands forever.