Typically, posts (the few that are out there) written with working homeschool moms in mind, focus on one main theme. That theme is associated with schedules. We want to know how to make it all work, don’t we? You live life straddling the working side and the mommy-teacher side. You make it work and so does your family. But, it’s tough business. It can easily become overwhelming if we aren’t careful. Being a working homeschool mom tough.
Do you work and homeschool? Check out our working homeschool moms resource page that contains more articles about how to balance homeschooling and working. Please do read these as there is a lot of useful information not only in what I’ve said but also from what our fellow working families have said in the comments.
Truthfully, I can’t write you any more “you can do this” posts without first being totally transparent. Because we can do this, but we just need to recognize our struggles along the way or our light will totally burnout. This post isn’t meant to discourage but to be real. Real equals being prepared. 😉
Lately, I’ve been feeling quite overwhelmed. I do a good job of , for lack of better words, sucking it up. I have a knack for stuffing my borderline anxious feelings gurgling up at the back of my throat down where they belong. But life has definitely gotten tough. I am the QUEEN of taking on too much, saying I can do that one more thing for the seventh time this week. And a lot of times, it isn’t just my schedule that overwhelms me but that of my spouse or my children too.
One extra event or activity means having to shift a cascading series of other events to meet the needs of the new commitment. But, I make it work. This crazy business in my life has forced me to mature into a master time juggler. It is so tempting to just keep adding things as they come up. Because, I don’t want anyone to miss out. And with all this, comes that moment when I realize, I am in the thick of craziness. Utter controlled chaos. And I just can’t keep it all up. Moderation needs to be relearned. However, I cling to what we’ve got going on like it is required to sustain life – which it’s not.
I know I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE. All of us working homeschool ladies are catapulted into some kind craziness from time to time – like every day. And it seems as though we don’t feel it – or at least we don’t care to recognized it – until we are drowning in our own calendar reminders. We are forced to acknowledge our pressures only when we can’t possibly be at every place we are suppose to be when they are all at the same time. I can’t possibly be at work, review that homeschool curriculum, be at that homeschool coop service project, at soccer, and at boy scouts all at the same time. It might happen in some sci-fi movie where mom literally becomes a superwoman but not here. Not in my life and definitely not in most mom’s lives with similar life styles.
Being working homeschool moms, I know we all have something extra special. We have a very unique drive that makes us do things that most wouldn’t. We are determined and motivated because of our children and their education. Something – or Someone – lit a raging fire under us and got us going. But maybe we got going TOO much. Our wheels spin under us like road runner and we have to go go go. I hate to rain on my parade and all of my fellow mamas but some things we have to let go. Our wheels will melt right underneath of us and we won’t get anywhere in the long run.
This cannot be maintained long term. Something will most certainly suffer. Something HAS TO GIVE or we will be picking up pieces of our selves and a families that can’t possibly be mended. Some may say I’m being dramatic. Maybe I am. But all the same, I’ve stepped back to look at how crazy life has been and I don’t like it. I don’t like this constant nagging feeling that I’ve forgotten something or even someone. The anxiety won’t get any better if I keep taking stuff on.
I have to start thinking about what is the very most important things and go from there. I need to stop being motivated by things of this world and start looking at the things that truly matter in life. There is no reason that I should be doing every single thing that passes in front of me and neither should that be the case for my kids.
I want to challenge you to look at how your own days are going. I know I’ve given advice on how to make the schedules work…but…Are schedules packed to the rim on the calendar? Is every single day full from dawn til past dusk? Where is the time to just live spontaneously? Where is there a free moment for your children to discover without being led by a lesson or a class? Where’s the time for you to just breath? Where’s the time for you to just sit quietly on the couch leaning on your special person without feeling weighed down by that darned calendar. Where’s the time to sit silent with your Maker? This time needs to be.
As working homeschool moms, I know our lives a crazy. They are ridiculously busy. Overwhelmed is totally an understatement. Life is tough on so many levels. But how much of our own choices and actions have caused our lives to be so tough, so busy? As for me, I know I’ve created my own overwhelmed state. I plan to fix that though. And I hope you do too!
Whether you want to jump off a cliff and dump everything at once or chip away at extras slowly that is up to you. But, I do want to encourage us all to do this. Really, start getting rid of stuff. You will feel so free and refreshed!!!
Do you work and homeschool? Check out our working homeschool moms resource page that contains more articles about how to balance homeschooling and working.
What are you doing in your life to make things simple as a working homeschool mom? Is being a working homeschool mom tough for you?