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Dear Homeschool Mom Who Has Homeschool Burnout

Dear Homeschool Mom,

Are you having a hard day today? Feeling tired? Burned out? Ready to give up? Ready to ship your little sweeties off on the yellow bus so you can take a break? I understand! I’ve been there too.

I’ve been homeschooling for 19 years, and I’ve had many days when I thought I just couldn’t do it any more. I was ready to give up. To pack up my kiddos and send them off to school somewhere so I could regain my sanity. You too? Yep, I get it!

So what can you do about it if you’re in that situation? Dealing with burnout is a serious issue, but you can learn coping strategies. You can do things that will help take some of the pressure off of you and help you (and your children) get back into a better routine.

Put on a happy face.

One of the most important things I’ve learned over my homeschool years is that I set the tone in my house. If I wake up feeling grouchy, my children will probably be grouchy that day too! But if I decide to try my best to be happy (or at least pleasant), my children often behave much better. Of course we all have days now and then when we just feel crummy. That’s life. But if we try most of the time to be pleasant, our children will (hopefully!) learn from our good examples and will be more pleasant too. And even if you don’t feel happy, do your best to act happy! You may just end up tricking yourself into feeling better. 🙂

However, there’s something important you need to keep in mind! If you think you’re truly depressed, you need to see a doctor you trust!! Depression can be dangerous and often isn’t something you can get over on your own! Please don’t be embarrassed or ashamed if you need medical help. Many of us have gone through depression! It’s so much better to admit it, seek help, and move toward feeling better! In fact, it’ll end up being better for you and your whole family. So don’t just think about it. Get help. Now.

Take care of yourself.

I know. That’s easier said than done. But it’s also important. Necessary. For the good of your husband and your children, you must take care of yourself! I don’t mean that you have to eat only organic fruits and vegetables, work out five days a week, sleep late every Saturday, and never deal with stress. Those things would be nice, but they aren’t what I’m talking about, and they’re probably not possible right now anyway. But there are things you can do to take care of yourself. You may not be able to do all of these things, but maybe you can do one or two. Or maybe there’s something that’s not listed here that’s more important to you. Think about yourself and your own situation, and use these suggestions as starting points.

  • Read a book for fun.
  • Go for a walk with a friend–or even all by yourself.
  • Call a friend to chat for a few minutes.
  • Go on a date with your husband or have a girls’ night out with friends.
  • Try not to eat too much junk food.
  • Take a good vitamin supplement.
  • Get out in the sunshine as often as possible.
  • Turn on some music to enjoy while you do housework.
  • Take a “power nap.”
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Get to bed at a decent time.
  • Diffuse essential oils or burn a candle to make the house smell good.

 

Don’t stress about your homeschool.

Believe it or not, your kids will be ok! Your homeschool does NOT have to be perfect. You do NOT have to be a perfect teacher. Your children do NOT have to be perfect students. Have you ever stopped to think about the fact that public and private school teachers are just people? They’re just like you! There’s nothing magical about them! Give yourself a break and realize that the single most important thing you can do to be a good teacher is care about your students. 

Another thing to keep in mind is that it’s important to have balance in your homeschool. Yes, your children do need to participate in outside activities like art or music lessons or church activities or sports. But they don’t need to do these things every single day or every single evening. If you find yourself running here and there to the point where you (and maybe your children too!) are tired and miserable, cut back on what you’re doing!

Or it could be that you’re in the opposite situation. Maybe you never get out of the house with your children. In that case, choose one or two activities to begin participating in. Start small. Maybe meet some friends at the park once a week to let the kids play and the moms visit. Maybe let your children begin a class or sport of some kind. Maybe your local library has a story time. Think about what might work for you and your children, talk with other moms in your local homeschool group or local area, and get out of the house once in a while for some fun!

Pray about it.

I know I’m the worst about worrying, feeling helpless, worrying some more, and then finally praying about it when I’m not sure how to handle a situation. I don’t know why I do it, but I often think of praying as a last resort instead of a first response. I have to remind myself sometimes that God cares about everything we go through–whether it’s related to our homeschools, finances, personal lives, or other areas. I guess sometimes I feel like I’m bothering God with my small problems when there are so many more important situations going on with so many people. But guess what? God cares about our homeschools! He cares when we feel burned out. So don’t wait to pray until you feel like things are out of control. Pray about it.

Ask for help from friends or family.

Sometimes we are reluctant to ask for help from friends and family members. We may feel like we don’t have people we can ask for help. If you do have family members close by, ask them for help! If you don’t have family close by or if your family members can’t or won’t help, ask a friend. It’s so important to be part of a local homeschool group, church, play group, babysitting co-op, or some other kind of supportive group or organization if you possibly can because most of us at one time or another need help! You may be able to trade babysitting with another family or hire a teen who’s willing to work for a rate you can afford. Local churches or homeschool groups may even have volunteers who are willing to give you a break once in a while. It won’t hurt to ask!

Keep this in mind.

Most of us go through burnout at one time or another. It’s not fun. It’s not something we want to go through. But it is normal. And it is possible to get through it and keep on going with a happy life and a happy and productive homeschool! Going through burnout does not mean that you have to send your children to school somewhere in order to feel better again. It doesn’t mean you’ll always feel this way. It just means that you need to make a few changes in order to handle things until you feel better. It means you need to reach out for help. It means you need to give yourself some grace for a while.

If you’ve gone through homeschool burnout, what have you done to get through it? We want to hear from you! 

About the author

Wendy

I am one of the owners of Hip Homeschool Moms. I live in the South with my husband, Scott, and 3 children. I am a Christian, homeschooling, work-from-home mom. I love working out and teaching Training for Warriors classes at my local gym. My husband, Scott, and I were high school sweethearts and have been married for 27 years. Our oldest child, Hannah, is now age 22. She has autism, and I started homeschooling her at age 2. Our son, Noah, is now age 21 and is the second homeschool graduate in the family. Our youngest child, Mary Grace, age 15, is the remaining homeschool student.

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  • Wendy (my namesake), 🙂
    This post is so on point and the advice on self-care is solid. I experienced a dark season of life burnout a few years ago which left me with generalized anxiety disorder. Since then I’ve had to learn how to really take care of myself. I do regular, daily self-care by taking naps or moments of rest, not skipping meals, relaxing the standards for my home and homeschool, seeing a therapist, delegating more and keeping strong connections with healthy people. I am grateful for the lessons I’ve learnt and now encourage moms to focus more on self-care so they can be better for themselves and those that depend on them.

    • Hi Wendy! Thank you for taking the time to comment! 🙂 It sounds like you’ve learned to take care of yourself, and that’s a great thing! I “take my own advice” and make sure to eat well, exercise daily, take naps when needed (or try to get in bed on time), and some of the other tips and suggestions too. I’ve learned that my homeschool goes much better, but the rest of my life goes much better too! We weren’t meant to neglect ourselves while caring for our families. It’s bad for us, and it’s a bad example for our children too. Blessings to you and your homeschool!

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